A planning workshop for those who will one day die
A guided experience where we face our mortality with honesty, and begin to plan with care, using writing and conversation to create safer spaces for ourselves and the people we love, and maybe, because of that, start living differently.
We move through life assuming there will be more years, more time, more “laters” to return to what matters. To say the thing, to make the change, to face what we’ve been avoiding. But none of that is promised. Not the extra year. Not the right moment. Not even the chance to come back to this when it feels more convenient. This isn’t about urgency for urgency’s sake. It’s about telling the truth: you may not have as much time as you think, and what you keep putting off doesn’t wait forever.
There is no "later." only now.
Your Invitation
You already know how this ends. Not in theory. Not as something that happens to other people. You. And yet most of your life has been shaped around not looking at it too directly. Keeping death just far enough away to go on as you have been. Making plans as if time were generous. Postponing what matters as if there will be a better moment to return to it. There won’t be. This is not an invitation to despair. It is an invitation to stop pretending.
We gather for a single evening to sit with that fact and to do something about it. Not as an abstract idea, but as a quiet, practical act of care. Because planning for your death is not morbid. It is love. It is how you make things a little easier for the people who will have to live without you. It is how you say, even in your absence, I was thinking of you.
You’ll be invited to consider the things most people avoid. The details. The decisions. The conversations left too late. Not to be overwhelmed by them, but to meet them honestly, and in doing so, to offer something real to the people you love. We will not fix each other. We will not perform. You can speak, if you’re willing, and listen if you’re not. No answers required. Only honesty.
This is for those who can’t keep looking away. You will be asked to show up, to consider your own death personally, and to let that awareness begin to shape how you prepare, how you communicate, how you care. Because once you stop pretending you are not going to die, planning stops feeling like fear and starts revealing itself as one of the most generous things you can do.
Your Mortality
“I am ready and willing to face my mortality without softening it.” Then let’s begin to see our lives more clearly.
Finding the Words
“I’m ready to put words to what I’ve been avoiding?” This is the place. And you will hear others do the same.
Return to joy
“There are some joys and necessities I’ve been postponing.” It’s time to name what actually matters now.
creating space
“I want to be present for others in their hardest moments.” Then let’s learn how to show up without turning away.
- You will come ready to think about your own death, honestly
- You will be asked to write and reflect during the session
- You are responsible for your participation (speaking or listening)
- You should be in a private, uninterrupted space
It may bring up strong emotions. You are encouraged to move at your own pace and take care of yourself as needed. If you are in acute grief or crisis, this may not be the right space for you right now.
- What’s shared in the group stays in the group
- No recording or sharing others’ stories
- Respect for different beliefs and experiences
You’ve read this far. Something in you recognizes this.
Not as an idea, but as something you’ve been circling for a while. You can keep postponing it, telling yourself you’ll come back when there’s more time, when it feels easier, when you’re more ready. Or you can step into it now. If you’re willing to be honest, to do the work, and to stop looking away, your place is here.
